Determine the kind of help you need
Based on the nature of your loss and your situation, you may need help with a range of things. Common types of help that people need after a death are:
Personal help, including:
- Pet care
- Help cooking or providing meals
- Coordinating out-of-town guests
Household help, including:
- Grocery shopping
Financial help, including:
Reach out to your network
For certain tasks you may need to reach out to individuals directly, while for other tasks you may be able to ask for help in less personal ways.
For highly personal tasks, such as childcare, you will likely want to be in touch with specific friends or family members directly to ask for assistance. The best way to request this kind of personal help is by calling or texting. Let people know the days and times you need help so that people can be sure to be available when you need them.
For less sensitive personal tasks, you might identify a group of people who you think can help and email them all. For example, if you need someone to walk your dog, you might consider emailing a group of people in your neighborhood. Not only would this kind of help be fairly easy for neighbors, but by emailing everyone at the same time they can potentially coordinate their help among themselves.
For tasks that your entire support network can help with, there are many excellent online resources that can help you ask for and coordinate help. Some sites are dedicated to single tasks, like meal preparation, while other sites offer the ability to coordinate many different types of tasks. If you are thinking about setting up an online registry to allow friends to help you, you might want to consider letting someone help you set up the registry, as asking for help can often be emotional and stressful.