Primary Goal of this Step
Engage your friends, family, and community to help you cope with the loss and deal with things you may need help with. Let someone close to you serve as the coordinator so you don’t have to deal with all the small things.
Important Tasks: Activate Your Support Network
Choose a coordinator
Choose someone close to you to serve as the coordinator. This person can help you plan the funeral or memorial service and surrounding events, such as a post-funeral reception, and can help engage other friends to help.
Determine what kind of help you need
Depending on the nature of your loss, you may need help with a range of things, from personal help, such as childcare or pet care, to financial help, such as settling the estate, to household help, such as meal preparation or house cleaning.
Figure out how to ask for help
Call or email. If you have a specific request, reach out personally to a person who can help you.
Set up a meal registry
If you need help at mealtime, there are a number of online resources that can help you engage your community. Let people know what days and times you need meals and specify any allergies.
Set up an online community page
For other tasks you may need help with, such as organizing transportation, childcare, shopping, or simply personal visits with friends, there are a number of online resources that can help you engage your community and receive the support that you need.