Primary Goal of this Step
Inform your family of the type of service you would like to have. You may consider identifying desired participants, readings , and decorations  if you wish. Decide if you’d like to have any surrounding events, such as a viewing, wake, or visitation  before the service, or a reception or gathering  after the service.
Important Tasks: Personalize Your Funeral or Memorial Service
Choose a location
Funerals are typically held at funeral homes, religious places of worship, chapels at cemeteries, or at gravesites.
Choose an officiant
If you’ll be having the service at a religious place of worship, the religious leader there will likely lead the service. Otherwise, anyone you choose can lead the service.
There are many ways for friends and family to participate in a funeral or memorial service. Identify who you’d like to serve as pallbearers  and deliver eulogies and other readings . Participants may also sing songs, play music , or offer other tributes.
Make a list of guests to invite
If there are specific people you would like to have invited to the service , write down their names and contact information so that the person managing the service will be sure to invite them.